Challange #2, Day 12

This is a daily update in a series of blog posts for the challange we recently took with my wife. Our goal is to make us think before praising our son, think if it’s reasonable or what impact it may have. How did we do on Day #12?

One thing I’ve noticed is I got used to replacing my “praises” with questions. Like instead of suggesting how great he should feel about something I would ask how is he feeling or If he’s feeling great. Yeah, he does not answer my questions so far but I think in general it’s a good practice and it’s really way better than forcing him to feel in a certain way. I can only help him understand how he should call what he feels, but does it really matter all that much? I guess not.

If that doesn’t make any sense, it’s probably because I was working late today. See the time of the post.

3 comments ↓

#1 Aurimas on 11.14.09 at 05:41

Oh, it seems you can’t see the time of the post. Well never mind.

#2 Marija on 11.14.09 at 10:43

I totally agree.. It really is way better. Especially when you think about how would you yourself feel. Imagine playing the piano, and someone comes and begins to shout loudly, happily and enthusiastically as it is possible to imagine: “you’re having so much fun! you’re doing great! you’re beautiful! you’re smart!” moreover, would keep on doing so for half an hour. Doesn’t sound too good.. at least for me…

let’s keep on trying to stop ourselves, ha? :)

#3 Aurimas on 11.15.09 at 00:17

I hope we’re not that bad… but you really make a good point! I’m so happy you don’t do that to me :D But just trying to put yourself in the situation alike really helps to understand it better- I should do that more often.

Poor kids…

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